FAQ's about Counselling and Coaching
Q. What the difference between professional counselling/ coaching, and just talking with family and friends?
Support from family and friends is important and it can be helpful to talk about problems to close family and friends, but counselling and coaching is different. Professionally trained, they can assist you to get to the root of the problem, overcome challenges and make positive changes in your life.
Q. Do I need counselling or coaching?
Simply stated counselling is for healing and coaching is for achieving an outcome or goal. Both enable changes to occur, so there can be a crossover between the two however, and we are equipped to serve you with the full range. Feel free to discuss with us which option may be best for you and your situation.
Q. Is pursing counselling an admission of a mental health problem?
You don’t have to be diagnosed with a mental health problem to benefit from counselling. Many people in counselling seek help for everyday concerns: relationship problems, job stress, or self-doubt, for example. Others turn to counselling during difficult times, such as a divorce. Counselling is as much about maintaining mental health as it is about restoring mental health.
Q. I don’t need a counsellor. I’m smart enough to solve my own problems.
Everyone has their own blind spots and intelligence has little to do with it. A good counsellor or coach doesn’t tell what to do or how to live your life. They can give you an experienced outside perspective and assist you to gain insight into yourself, expand your options, and make better choices.
Q. What type of therapy or therapist is best?
There are many types of therapies and therapists, and it might feel a bit overwhelming to get started. No one type of therapy is best, any more than any style of car is best. It just depends on your individual preferences and needs. Though some therapies are more useful than others in dealing with specific types of problems, in general, research about the ‘best’ type of therapy always reaches the same conclusion: the science and philosophy behind the therapy is less important than the relationship between you and your therapist.
Questions to ask yourself when choosing a counsellor or coach.
Does he/she accept you for who you are? Do you feel they understand and care about you and your issue?
Do you feel good talking to them, and would you feel comfortable revealing personal information to this person?
Are they a good listener? Do they listen without interrupting, criticising or judging? Do you feel heard? A good counsellor or coach doesn’t force their own projections onto you and doesn’t try to fit you into a box.
And.. it’s okay to ask your counsellor or coach questions, and if the connection doesn’t feel right or you don’t trust the person, then go with another choice. A good therapist will respect your choice and will not pressure you or make you feel guilty. Ask around for recommendations.